Shaming in the Gaming Community

Shame: “A painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior.”

Shaming then is the act of causing someone to feel shame. Unfortunately, shaming is a big issue in many areas of our lives. The most notable example that comes to mind is “peer-pressure” where one person is convinced to do something they otherwise wouldn’t do just because their peers are doing it. To avoid the shame and humiliation of NOT participating, they give in and do stuff that they know they shouldn’t do.

Advertisements are especially guilty of shaming people in lots of ways. They make us feel that we, or something we own, is not good enough so that we’ll buy what they’re selling. Beauty products make women feel ugly or overweight, but promise that their product can help them out. Hair growth products make men who are losing their hair feel horrible. Once again, they promise that their product can fix it all and have you looking handsome onece again. Those are just a few examples and I’m sure you can think of plenty more on your own.

Shame in Gaming

I initially started thinking about this when I first loaded up “Wolfenstein: The New Order” and looked at the difficulty levels. Here’s a screenshot of what I saw:


If you choose the easiest setting, it pretty much implies that you’re a baby. The more difficult the setting you choose, the more “manly” the character appears. This is a form of shaming, even if the intent of the developers was just to offer difficulty levels that weren’t your tradidtional “Easy, Normal, Hard”. I personally wasn’t offended or anything and thought it was amusing, but it definitely got me thinking.

As I played the game I ran into a new problem I had not yet faced. The upgrade to PS4 has led to a shift from the traditional control scheme to one that’s slightly different. I struggled really hard trying to get used to using R2 to shoot instead of R1 which I had used nearly every day for like 15 years. It genuinely frustrated me and since there was no way to change that in the controls menu, I decided to return the game before I ran out of time to do so.

Apparently I’m Not Alone

My frustration took me to the internet (since I was already there) and I started looking to see how other people felt about the switch. I was NOT prepared for the level of hostility that would follow.

my god!! cant you guys stop complain about every litle issue???

Apparently complaining about any change or lack of options in a game results in one or two people agreeing with you and dozens of others shouting obscenities at you and telling you to get over it. Even when the “complaint” was written out very thoroughly and the complainer had really good reasons why an option should be there, those who responded were often hostile or rude or unwilling to even consider the thought before blurting things out like:

“just get used to it, Jesus”

“Have a lollipop you little *bleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep*”

“You just have to move your fingers down a little. With enough practice surely you’ll get used to it.”

“Well L2 and R2 feel so much better, I don’t see why people don’t just adapt.”

Every one of these statements is a form of shaming. Those who were frustrated or had a legitimate complaint were basically being told that their idea or complaint wasn’t justified and that they wasted time by posting it. It implies that because they’re struggling with something that nobody else seems to struggle with, they’re not as good at playing games as others. I understand that offering an option to suit EVERYONE is an unrealistic expectation, but when players treat each other like this it helps nothing. Complaining doesn’t help either, but sometimes seeing that others are struggling with something similar can be a big relief to someone doubting themselves.

A little solidarity is all people are usually looking for.

Every Gamer Wants Something Different

The reality is that nobody is perfect and no two people are the same. What works for YOU might not work for someone else. When PC gamers ridicule those of us who prefer consoles, it helps nothing. I’m sorry but I cannot use a mouse and keyboard as well as I can use a controller. I could barely read when I started playing consoles but I was in my teens when I started playing PC games. Consoles just feel better, more comfortable to me. When someone says only true gamers can play a game like Dark Souls, they’re shaming every single person out there who doesn’t enjoy games like Dark Souls (I am one of those people).

Some people prefer to play games on easier difficulty settings so they can relax and just enjoy the story while others prefer harder difficulties because they find overcoming challenges more rewarding. Both options, and every option in between, are perfectly reasonable ways to play games.

Some people like to shoot with R1 and some don’t. That’s just the way it is.

The Moral Of All This

The gaming community is often viewed very negatively by the rest of the world. Anti-gun activists point to violent video games as the cause for mass shootings. Feminists criticize how few games feature strong female characters. Those are just TWO groups that came to mind right away.

To the average person who doesn’t play games, the image that pops up when you say “gamer” is that of a disgusting teenager sitting at his desk amidst a pile of trash staring into his computer screen. Then if any of those people look deeper into the gaming community all they would see is a bunch of people who insult each other and are hostile to one another. To them, that completely justifies the negative view they had.

If we, as gamers, want to be accepted by the rest of the world, and by each other, we need to make gaming a FRIENDLY activity. It needs to be something that ANYONE can enjoy, regardless of skill level or how adaptable you are. Games are supposed to provide an escape from the harshness and crappiness of the real world and yet all we do is bring that stuff into games with us.

I long for a day where I can play a multiplayer game without hearing everyone insult each other. Because really, most of us are just trying to have a good time.


Dragon Ball Xenoverse – Offline/Local Multiplayer

Heather and I bought a new game yesterday.  We’re very excited to add Xenoverse to our gaming collection.  It’s been a long time since either of us have played a Dragon Ball game of any kind, and so far this one has been pretty awesome.

But for the life of us, we couldn’t figure out how to play together offline.  We just wanted to see what our options were for co-op or even 1v1.  Since there isn’t really a traditional menu in the game and you have to run around the city they created (Toki Toki City) to find everything, it was a little more difficult.  But we finally figured it out and I wanted to put up a sort brief of how-to post to help anyone else who is lost.

So here goes:

1)  From the Hercule statue in Toki Toki City, go to the right, through the portal gate thing and into the next section of the city. This is where you met Trunks in the beginning. There’s a stream running along the path and bridges cross to your left.

2)  Stay on the path like you’re going to continue to the next gate thing, but don’t go to the next section.

3) On the right, there are some stairs that go up just a bit.  Go up them and on the left side of the building there is a stand that says, “Local Battle Reception”.

That’s it!  Unfortunately, the options are kinda crappy as you can only battle in the World Tournament stage and only player vs player, but that’s how it’s done.  Below is the video we recorded of us trying it out:

If you have any questions, or if I’ve left anything out and you still can’t find it, please let us know by leaving a comment.

Social Media Masters

We’ve slowly been working on expanding our online presence and I’m happy to report that we’re well on our way now.  Most of the hold up was just from inexperience with some of the sites and issues with our graphics and banners and things like that.  But I think we’ve got it figured out.  Just took some time and patience.

Below are all the places you can currently stalk us on the interwebz:

We’ll be finalizing a few more things in the coming days so if something looks a bit empty, it’ll likely be updated soon.

Thanks to everyone who has supported us so far.  We really appreciate it.  Leave us some comments and let us know what you think or what you would like to see in our videos.

Bringing the Dead Back to Life

When you get really excited about something, and you’re about to jump in headfirst, something always seems to go wrong.  That’s exactly what happened to Heather and I when we decided that we wanted to play some Nintendo 64 over the weekend.  We got excited, set up our chairs and recording software, fired up the game and received a “No Controller” message.  Heather’s ancient Atomic Purple controller had bit the dust.

So there we were.  Unable to play.  Disappointed.  Devastated at the loss of a long-loved controller.

Monday morning I started shopping around.  We had to have another controller if we were going to play, and sooner rather than later so we could capitalize on the excitement we still had.  Our options were pretty clear.  Pay $20 for a plain grey controller from the local store, or buy another Atomic Purple edition online and wait for it to get here.  I decided to go for the third option: Revive it.

Some quick research told me that N64 controllers weren’t that difficult to work on.  Gaming hardware was pretty basic back then, even for something as “advanced” as the Nintendo 64.  I broke out the tools and went to work:


Controller Cord

It was pretty clear where the problem most likely was when I opened up the controller.  In order to line everything up correctly and to keep the cord from being pulled out of the controller, the wires were snaked around in an S-shape that over time would no doubt cause problems.  I removed about 2 or 3 inches of the wires where they were most kinked and spliced everything back together.  In less than 2 hours we went from broken controller to gaming once again.  The repair actually appears to be more solid than what was there once it all went back together.

20150216_194720All in all I was very pleased with myself.  I saved us some money and a lot of time.  I was also able to salvage part of Heather’s childhood that would otherwise be lost. If anyone is interested in more information about the process from start to finish, I would be happy to write up more of a how-to post.  I just didn’t figure there were too many people out there who were interested in repairing a controller for the N64.

Have you ever worked on a piece of gaming hardware?  Have you ever fixed something that most people would’ve just thrown away?  We’d like to hear your thoughts so please be sure to leave us a comment below.

If you haven’t checked out our gaming channel yet, we really think you’d enjoy it.  We’ve been working hard to produce the best content we can and we have a lot of good things lined up yet still.  We’ve uploaded over 50 videos already, from let’s plays to funny highlights and everything in between.  There’s sure to be something you’ll like.


Steam Calculator – So Cool, So Demoralizing

Hoarding games on Steam is extremely easy.  There are sales literally every day.  Sometimes you can’t find any good games on sale, but most of the time you can find one or two.  Over time, these games pile up and you end up sitting on a bunch of games that you’ve never played.

Enter the Steam Calculator.

This handy little page will calculate the current value of the games you have in your Steam library.  It will also show you the value of your games based on their full retail price.  Those are scary numbers to look at.  They knew it would be when they made it because the button that calculates the totals says, “Get disappointed in your life.”

The website also lists every game that you own and how long you’ve played each one.  Of course, it’s also very easy to see which ones haven’t played as well . . .

Then, at the bottom, it gives you this nice little summary that you can display on forums and other places (though you might have to tidy up the code a bit depending on where you post it):

**My Steam Profile**

  • Worth: $1484 ($397 with sales)
  • Games owned: 125
  • Games not played: 92 (74%)
  • Hours on record: 798.9 h

But that’s not all you can do from that page.  Along the top there are some drop-down menus.  One of the coolest parts of the website is that you can click on the “Sales” tab and it will pull up every sale that Steam has going on.  You can then sort them far easier than you can in the Steam store.  The default sort method lists games that are the most discounted first.

I just thought I should share this tool because it certainly opened my eyes.  How many games do you own that you’ve yet to play?  What are your games worth?  Feel free to paste your results in the comments!

Console Collection Continues to Grow!

Around the beginning of December, my mom moved into a new house for the umpteenth time.  During the move, we tried to sort through some of my old boxes to see what was really worth keeping.  There was a lot of junk, as one would expect, but a few really cool things were dug up as well.

One of those things just happened to be my step dad’s old PlayStation and a box of games.

With all the holiday madness that ensued the rest of December, we only recently managed to get it set up with the rest of our systems.  It works like brand new, though the visuals in many of the games are pretty cringe-worthy.  This brings our console count to 8 (9 if you count the Wii’s internal GameCube):

  • NES
  • SNES
  • Sega Genesis
  • N64
  • Wii/Gamecube
  • PlayStation
  • PS2
  • PS3

Some might say it’s silly to have all those, but we don’t feel that way.  Having each one in working condition is pretty cool to us.

The dust bunnies that dwell on all those wires behind the entertainment center probably think it’s cool too . . .

Featured on a Youtube Channel in a Very Unique Way

One of the best things about being on WordPress and Youtube is the connections that you make and the friends you meet.  In less than a month on Youtube we were already interacting with good people and it really has been enjoyable.

On an even more exciting note, Heather and I were lucky enough to be featured in another Youtuber’s video!  Lionite has this unique thing where at the end of his Let’s Play videos he does a special drawing for someone who commented on a previous video.  We left a comment on one of his videos and he went back to our Terraria Christmas Special and drew this awesome picture of Santa:

Lionite Drawing

We really liked it and wanted to share it with everyone.  If you like watching people draw or watching Let’s Plays  on Youtube, go give Lionite’s channel a look.  You’re welcome to give our channel a look too of course.  🙂